>Someone dumb enough to sacrifice their personal life to your "vision" to this extent will probably exhibit poor judgement in other aspects of your business.
Honestly, a lot of us programmers don't really have lives outside of work and enjoy what we do. Maybe that advantage inspires snark in those for whom work is not a 1# priority.
If that’s the case then unless you own a significant part of the company you should either be starting your own company, learning something perpendicular to your day job, or you know, engaging in leisure.
100%. Making your life your work isn't necessarily bad, if you've come to that decision of your own free will and after careful consideration of the alternatives, but making your life a faceless cog in a bureaucracy is a life unlived. It only makes sense to treat work that way if you're a co-founder or co-owner.
Honestly, a lot of us programmers don't really have lives outside of work and enjoy what we do. Maybe that advantage inspires snark in those for whom work is not a 1# priority.