To have this program exist requires children that can be trusted
you got that completely wrong. it requires adults that teach children how to behave.
Japan was able to do this by pressuring its citizens & youth to pay the cultural toll needed to get there, and it was a toll that *everyone* had to pay into
now that is just offensive.
this is how japanese culture developed. there was no toll to achieve it. (there are some downsides, but they are mostly in the behavior of men towards women, which is a global problem). this is how most asian cultures work. and african too. children learn to do these things, and they learn how to behave properly.
lack of social pressure doesn't eliminate bullying for example. actually, bullying is a form of social pressure too. i do agree that social pressure is bad. pressure to conform is bad. conforming itself isn't. but the point really is that the social pressure in japan is actually just of a different form compared to the pressure that exists in the US. it is an illusion to think that there is no social pressure in the US. and i understand that in japan this is extreme. but learning to prepare food or clean is not the problem here.
the big downside in japan is that it is more difficult for victims to speak up. but it wasn't much better in the west until recently. that child you mention has no one to talk to to get help. social pressure to conform is only part of the problem here. it's also lack of awareness and understanding. but i have the impression that this is changing, so i am hopeful.
Of course there’s social pressure in the US too. But it’s different. I’d argue that the US has a lot of issues, but social pressure to conform isn’t anywhere close to the worst.
My son here gets stressed out if he’s not brought a hairnet in the proper color for swimming lessons.
Never mind that there’s no requirement to wear a hairnet in my home country, the idea of requiring a specific color, or the teacher getting upset if it’s forgotten is bizarre.
Nonetheless, everyone thinks this is a major problem here, and so kids internalize that and perpetuate it.
In regards to the speaking up thing, I think a major component there is that it’s often considered a you problem. All these other kids go to school just fine, so the problem must be you.
you got that completely wrong. it requires adults that teach children how to behave.
Japan was able to do this by pressuring its citizens & youth to pay the cultural toll needed to get there, and it was a toll that *everyone* had to pay into
now that is just offensive.
this is how japanese culture developed. there was no toll to achieve it. (there are some downsides, but they are mostly in the behavior of men towards women, which is a global problem). this is how most asian cultures work. and african too. children learn to do these things, and they learn how to behave properly.