I don’t think it’s helpful to talk about it in terms of “privilege.” It’s not about being lucky enough to be born into privilege, but not being unlucky enough to be born into structural dysfunction.
If you compare income mobility between parents and adult children in the U.S. versus Denmark, it looks quite similar for the top 80%. https://archive.nytimes.com/www.nytimes.com/interactive/2012.... Someone raised in the second lowest income quantile in the U.S. has about the same chance of ending up in the top income quantile as someone in Denmark. It’s the bottom 20% where Americans are twice as likely to get stuck there in comparison to people in Denmark.
Activism was a big part of my life, even full time at times, from 1991-2005 and I spent a lot of time going into rooms inhabited by different groups building bridges not to mention tabling, going door to door, getting signatures for political candidates, you name it. So I've had a lot of experience to how people react to different messages when I deliver them and when other people deliver them and I've got strong and grounded opinions about discourses that are counterproductive and make me wish I could use a hook to shuffle people off the stage.
The word "privilege" and especially the phrase "white privilege" is at the top of that list.
There really are some privileged individuals who are entitled and could use some bringing down but if you're speaking to a group you really don't where people are coming and frequently when I talk to an individual I find my expectations about their history and point of view are completely wrong. In particular I know a lot of white people who have black problems including the meaningless-but-fatal confrontations with the police. For the most part [1] black people are more concerned about racism in America than white people, but know many black people who resent the idea that they are first-and-foremost descendants of slaves and victims of racism and it's such a strongly held feeling for some that if you give them a choice of a strident "anti-racist" and a flagrant racist they'll pick the latter.
If you compare income mobility between parents and adult children in the U.S. versus Denmark, it looks quite similar for the top 80%. https://archive.nytimes.com/www.nytimes.com/interactive/2012.... Someone raised in the second lowest income quantile in the U.S. has about the same chance of ending up in the top income quantile as someone in Denmark. It’s the bottom 20% where Americans are twice as likely to get stuck there in comparison to people in Denmark.