A friend recommended to me having a D&D style roleplay with some different engines, to see which you vibe with. I thought this sounded crazy but I took their advice.

I found this worked suprisingly well, I was certain 'claude' was best, while they like grok and someone else liked ChatGPT. Some AIs just end up fitting best with how you like to chat I think. I do definately also find claude best for coding with as well.